Those who are over 30 today were brought up in the Soviet past, and in it, in this past, it was not customary to praise children especially. Suddenly he will be proud, suddenly he will lift his nose too high, and this is bad, not beautiful, not right. In education, more attention was paid to urging and orders than to encouragement and requests.
For example: – So that the house would be perfectly clean by my arrival, otherwise you will not go to the zoo, you will sit at home for a week.
And how is it perfectly clean? Can a child clean up the house perfectly? And the word itself is "perfect", some kind of blurry, inaccurate, incomprehensible. And when the parent who gave such a task returned home, he necessarily carried out an inspection in accordance with his real mood. Good mood, could not notice the garbage swept under the carpet. The bad thing is that you will definitely not wait for any zoo, no matter how carefully the child tries to restore order in the house. It would be fine if only an unfulfilled promise, and how many epithets can you immediately earn – a clumsy, a slob, a lazy, a loafer.
Of course, children were not brought up in this way in all families, but the trend was common to all. Such upbringing has given its shoots. People are not confident in themselves, they are afraid to express their point of view, - "And suddenly they will laugh, and suddenly, because I think it's wrong." A layer of society of infantile, "ill-mannered" people. Let's try to rewind a couple, three decades ago, remember the sore points of that upbringing and fall in love with yourself anew, that's what you are – a slob, a lazy man, a dunce, etc. And so, go ahead!
1) Take a piece of paper and write on it, starting from the very first memorization,
when, who and how said that YOU are a talentless, stupid, lazy, unworthy person, etc. The more such memories there are, the better.
2) And now, starting from the first entry, let's talk. Let's say someone once
said that you're a slob because you don't wash dishes well. Look at yourself today, don't you know how to wash dishes, cook, wash, iron, etc.?! Delete this word completely from your subconscious. That's not true! YOU are not a "slob".
3) The third step in returning to the world of self–confident people is to justify the one who
offended you. For example: "If HE hadn't left me then, I would never have met my loved one, and I wouldn't have had my children."
4) Try to become a designer. Remember the moment when you were
psychologically traumatized. Look at all these events from the outside and try to simulate a completely different plot without removing any of the participants. Create a new situation that is pleasant for you and try to believe in it. It didn't work out the first time, try again.
5) And now take any statement, you can come up with it yourself and repeat
it to yourself, or out loud when you feel insecure about yourself.
- I'm smart and handsome.
- I deserve all the best in this life.
- I have a lot of friends because I am a person.
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